I read a Facebook conversation today, regarding tribulations and whether it is best to cry or hold it in, talk about it or tell no one, or write versus leaving it in your head. The responses were different made by a variety of people. All answers could in some way be justified, and there is someone out there that can relate to every single response. I, however, have my own opinions that differ from any idea I laid eyes on today.
Cry? There's a time and place for everything, it is suggested to use your best judgement as to where an okay place to cry would be. In the middle of a job interview, or a final exam obviously would no make the list; but at home in your bedroom, in your bathroom, at church- those places might, depending on the person. I try not to cry, and yes I hold it in sometimes more than I should. I don't like making myself seem vulnerable, and when people see tears many of them see just that- vulnerability. But when I am alone, when I'm sure that I will not have to give an explanation for my puffy red face, I'll let it out. The shower is a good place, you can always say you got shampoo in your eye ;)
Talk? This one is tricky, it all depends on the subject, and who you are talking to. For the most part you would only talk about serious issues to those who you know you can trust, people you are sincerely connected to, and those who know you best. Through experience I know that most of the time you can predict what the person will have to say to you. That's when I say it is best to chose your ears carefully. You want someone that will be honest with you, who will not judge you, and who will be there no matter what- but you also do not want someone who is going to completely go against you making the situation worst. Most of the time I chose not to talk, because when you are upset you say things you generally don't mean, or exaggerate on something that may not be that serious and the person listening can take what you say and use it later, against you. Some people just don't understand that the burdened simply need someone to listen, not always someone to give advice.
Write? I have met very few people who said that writing made their situation worse. However, in those few I've heard "Writing only makes me think about it more and makes it worse," or "Writing makes me rethink everything and the anger stirs all over again." Most people find relief in writing though. I sincerely suggest it. It doesn't have to be something for anyone else to read, it doesn't have to be grammatically correct, or spelling-error-free. Just a collection of your thoughts, ideas that just need to be released. Writing allows me to enter a world of peace where "freedom of speech" is 100% granted. I can say anything, about anyone, at anytime, and it's between me, myself, and God. I have a collection of private writings, and this blog which is obviously public. For me, it is the best way to relieve a burdened heart.
Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. -Matthew 11:28
